The Wedding is Awesome, But Then There’s Some Work
We’re in the process of planning the wedding for our third daughter, and of course, the question of name changes comes up, and how does one go about notifying everyone who needs to know? Having now been through this a few times, I thought I would update and share the list I’ve come up with.
You can download the PDF version HERE.
A simple, step-by-step guide to where to update your name and which documents to bring in Virginia.
Where You Need to Update Your Name
- Social Security Administration – Update your Social Security card first.
- Virginia DMV – Update driver’s license, state ID, and vehicle registration.
- U.S. Passport – File a name change with the U.S. Department of State.
- Voter Registration – Update your Virginia voter record.
- Employer or HR – Update payroll, tax forms, and benefits.
- IRS – Usually syncs after Social Security, but verify your records.
- Banks and Credit Unions – Update checking, savings, cards, and loans.
- Mortgage or Lease – Update property and housing agreements.
- Utilities – Electric, gas, water, internet, and cable.
- Insurance Providers – Health, auto, home, and life policies.
- Medical Providers – Doctor, dentist, specialists, and pharmacies.
- Professional Licenses – Update with Virginia boards such as DPOR.
- Schools or Universities – Current enrollment or alumni records.
- Financial Accounts – Retirement, investment, and brokerage accounts.
- Credit Bureaus – Notify Equifax, Experian, and TransUnion.
- Memberships and Subscriptions – Gyms, clubs, magazines, streaming.
- U.S. Postal Service – Forwarding and profile updates if needed.
- Legal Documents – Wills, trusts, and powers of attorney.
- Child’s School or Daycare – Update emergency and contact records.
Documents You’ll Need to Bring
Requirements vary by institution. Originals or certified copies are safest.
- Certified Marriage Certificate – Issued by the Circuit Court.
- Current Driver’s License or State ID – For DMV and identity checks.
- Social Security Card – Bring the current card when applying for the new one.
- U.S. Passport – Needed if you are updating passport records.
- Birth Certificate – Occasionally requested as additional proof.
- Proof of Virginia Residency – Utility bill, lease, or mortgage statement.
- Employer or HR Forms – For payroll and benefits changes.
- Banking Materials – Checks, debit or credit cards, account details.
- Insurance Policy Information – Health, auto, home, and life.
- Professional License Details – State or board credentials.
- Relevant Court Orders – Prior name change or divorce decree if applicable.
Helpful Tips
- Update Social Security first, then DMV, then passport. Most other updates are smoother after these.
- Order multiple certified copies of your marriage certificate to avoid delays.
- Bring a payment method and original ID. Some offices will not accept photocopies.
- Take photos of receipts and confirmations so you can track what is complete.
Quick FAQ
Do I have to update every account immediately?
No, but government ID and payroll should be prioritized to avoid tax and benefits mismatches.
Will banks require me to visit a branch?
Often yes. Many banks need to see your updated government ID and a certified marriage certificate.
How many certified marriage certificates should I order?
Two or three usually covers it. You can order more later if needed.